Author: Beth Wonson
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Turn This Conversation Around
True and authentic communication is necessary. Without it, how do people come to truly know you? How does the reciprocity of trust develop in relationships? You must speak your truth. But how can you do that in a way that sets the stage for the best possible outcome? Simple. By turning the conversation around. Turning…
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The Only Person You Can Manage is Yourself
The NCD mantras serve as reminders to question the beliefs that may make you hesitant to initiate tough but necessary conversations. When asked which of the mantras most resonate, the majority of people pick The only person you can manage is yourself. Through hundreds of discussions, what I’ve found is that the people who pick…
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An Excerpt on Trust
Trust is such an integral part of the success of any organization, team or group. Yet, we rarely ever take a deep dive look into what trust really is and the many ways trust either does or does not show up in our relationships. The following is an excerpt from my newest book, Turn This…
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Gossip, Defined
A recent participant in NCD Essentials was reflecting on what the NCD Process taught her. I was so inspired by the insights she had after just two sessions of NCD Essentials, that I am altering my definition of gossip.
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Frustrated with your staff’s efforts to manage up?
A client request got me thinking about the gap that exists when we use phrases like “managing up” and what happens when we assume that others understand exactly what that means to us. If you are a leader who keeps using the term “manage up” as a directive to your staff and yet you aren’t…
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Are you missing someone?
Now more than ever, the world needs a pathway to connection through dialogue. A survey done in 2021 showed that close to 84 million Americans have parted ways with one or more significant people in their lives due to conflicts over values and political differences. For some it is the neighbor who helps you out…
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What happened? Why did I behave like that?
Do you ever walk away from a conversation wondering, “What happened? Why did I behave like that?” If you are human, it is likely you have been surprised by your own behavior. Maybe you lashed out at someone, or blamed them harshly, or even got mad and stormed off. It happens to all of us…
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An Uncomfortable Practice for Me
It has become disturbingly normal to dismiss and disconnect from people with whom we don’t agree. While this choice may feel comfortable in the short-term, it erodes our ability to thrive and survive as individuals and collectively. This will have a long-term negative impact on our society.
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Your Words Have Power
I was a teacher-in-training in a high school English class. It wasn’t just any class but a class for students with emotional and behavioral challenges which prevented them from success in mainstream classes. I watched as all the previously raised hands were lowered and students tried to become invisible. She became exasperated and proceeded to…
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Do you see what you’re planning?
Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you are appreciating, you are planning. What are you planning?