Don't worry. We will figure it out.

"Don't worry. We will figure it out."

Those are my favorite words to hear. What this tells me is that the person isn't getting triggered by the circumstances. They aren't going to engage in a whole bunch of drama. They know that roadblocks and obstacles come our way day in and day out, and that most of the time, smart humans have the ability to pivot, innovate, backtrack, or find an alternative pathway.

Often, and this is true for me too, when roadblocks present themselves, it is the emotional reactions and the self-talk that cause the most problems in getting over or around the hurdle.

Here are a few examples:

I'm going to be driving cross country this summer. This is my fourth trip going either east to west or west to east. But something came up, and where I'm headed will be a tad crowded on my arrival. There will be more people than beds for a few days.

When I mentioned this to my host, she said, "Don't worry. We'll figure it out." And we will.

I'm observing a business meeting, and an obstacle is presented. Many people start looking for who or what to blame. Or they start complaining about how things are now compared to how they've always been.

The leader interrupts the nonproductive muttering and sputtering and says, "Hey, this is where we are. It's time for a solution-based discussion, not a discussion about what we wish were different or who to blame because things are different."

I know someone who, when she misplaces her car keys or wallet, instead of taking a breath and calming her triggers and fears, gives right in and lets her emotions take her for a ride.

"I'm going to be late." "Someone could steal all my info and money."

Her heart rate rises and she starts moving rapidly in circles like a whirling dervish. This does not help locate a lost item.

But when she can pause and breathe, she quickly realizes where the items are.

Yes, some obstacles are insurmountable, and that is scary.

But most things that get in our way require a pivot, not panic. They require our brain getting more oxygen, not less. And they require us to respond, not react.

I have a sense that there may be more and more roadblocks in our future as the world rapidly changes and things don't operate or move as they did in the past. So, the solution, first and foremost, is to pause, breathe, and calm your mind. Second, listen to the thoughts you are having. Are they solutions-focused, or are they seeking someone to blame for the challenge?

I hope you will begin to notice your brain's response to challenges and obstacles and do yourself a huge favor by staying in a calm, solutions-based, "we'll figure it out" mode. As best as any of us can!

If you have a challenge or roadblock that feels insurmountable, set up a one-time solutions-based session with me. Together, we will find a path over, around, or through — as well as some peace of mind for you!

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